Hello,
ad 1. I must admit I don't understand your question - if my previous answer has not explained it enough, please make sure not to mix nodal forces with pressures, and explain what conversion you like to have (or not to have).
Ad 2. The Arc Length method scales the load. See ATENA Troubleshooting 2.2.6.1 Solution methods or the more detailed explanation in ATENA Theory.
Ad 3. If the AL load scaling (see 2. above) does not explain this difference, please see ATENA Troubleshooting, 2.1.22 My analysis results do not match the experiment/expectations. How can I improve my model? If you still can not identify the source of the difference, send us your model (see ATENA Troubleshooting, 2.1.1 I have a problem not listed here).